How to Build Up Your Self-Confidence

Have you ever felt nervous when talking to a stranger or a crowd? I believe more or less you have! One of the main causes is lack of confidence. Yet, the real challenge is how to boost up your self-confidence under important circumstances like research paper presentation, thesis defense, job interview or business presentation. You may have prepared such items as smart suits, a brand-new belt, sufficient material, etc. Oops, you forget to prepare one critical thing that mainly contributes to your success: MINDSET.

How can a great-looking guy be well scored while his mental attitude doesn’t go along with his appearance? I meant you haven’t prepared to be self-confident enough to “please” your audience. The good news is that this attribute can be practiced and developed with these simple steps:

1 – Focus on what you want.

This is what most of us neglect. While preparing for our turn, we spend time thinking of how negatively you will end up. Don’t care about how people would react. They will judge you by the way you express yourself and keep positive about who you are.

2 – Visualize yourself succeeding

After taking three deep breathes, picture yourself with positive results. Everybody congratulates you. You handle all the questions asked by your audience. Usually this visualization brings us smile, mostly triggering to our positive expectations.

3 – Use alert signs

Psychologists affirm that, like animals, human beings are conditioned with some behaviors. For example, whenever you take a dog a dish with food, your pet will look at the dish with saliva. Do it again without food, the dog will keep mouthwatering at your dish! Why not do this with yourself? Try to use any sign meaning your self-confidence, like holding your hand tight or crossing your fingers.

4 – Repeat positive auto-suggestions

This technique is the easiest. Still, like other techniques, it needs exercising. Now try to say all these sentences and feel how they power you up:

I am confident.

I can do it.

I am a successful student/candidate/employee/businessman.

I’m enjoying brilliant results…

Don’t just say or do it once; repeat it until you feel energy coming from inside you. Your own mind can be prepared like other items and even developed to its fullest by exercises or trainings.

“You are the product of your thought.”Buddha

by Sithen Sum

Sithen is a motivational trainer and business development manager with DreamMakers International (DMI), a HR Developer company based in Singapore and operating in Indochina, including Cambodia. If you wish to learn more how to develop your self-confidence to its fullest, please contact him at 012 684 955 or or visit


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